Updated: Nov 1, 2021
In an era of competitive office and business environments, there exists, unsurprisingly, a substantial amount of violent communication. This should not be accepted as natural or in any way, shape, or form desirable. Some executives believe that aggressive communication, pushy sales tactics, and an appeal to the reptile brain in a tough, rough, shock-and-awe, or otherwise bluntly caveman-ish manner is appropriate for daily communications. In fact, violent communication poisons our environments, societies, and cultural norms and creates negative externalities both in people’s public and private lives.
There are many different types of violent communication, ranging from direct verbal abuse to passive/microaggression, including subliminal hostile resistance by use of tone. It is vital to give heed to the truth that each of these are grains of sand in the engine of a peaceful and harmonious workplace experience. By the law of attraction, we invite customers and partners that are difficult to work with if we communicate aggressively. There is no excuse for allowing hostility to filter into the human framework of an organization. It will destroy traditions, values, and philosophies of abundance and flow quickly and almost invisibly, driving out the most functional human elements like a game of Yahtzee. As a second language speaking executive striving to achieve the highest developed version of oneself, we must remain dedicated to the study of non-violent communication.
“As a second language speaking executive striving to achieve the highest developed version of oneself, we must remain dedicated to the study of non-violent communication.”
Hyperawareness is one of our highest civilizational accomplishments and directs how methods of force and fear impact us all. When we drop into a sense of compassion with ourselves and others, we allow ourselves and others to see the truth and alternative perceptions. Real feelings of empathy can open space to create placeholders for creativity and innovation, enriching all parties involved immeasurably beyond purely monetary value. We can ensure a sense of well-being when concluding a conversation by phone or virtually with or without vivid images. Emotions swell as a consequence of the spoken word.
The impact of engagement that allows someone to feel at ease and at peace with you cannot be overstated. This is the setting in which honesty flows, reducing transactional costs of suspicion-focused due diligence, post-negotiation vigilance, excessive safety control measures, and protocols. Calm and unstrained interaction is valuable in manifesting in the minimal presence and the general absence of distracting red flags, allowing for expanded exchange and enhanced results for all stakeholders.
Abundance is a consequence of peace, and peace is fragile: we all do well to protect our peace together in every facet.